The Link Between Depression and Optimism- Reframing How We Think - Lynda Martens

The Link Between Depression and Optimism: Reframing How We Think

Depression often feels overwhelming—like a heavy lens that colors every experience in shades of negativity. But what if part of that lens comes from the way we explain events to ourselves? In his influential book Learned Optimism, psychologist Marten Seligman explores how our habitual thinking patterns—especially pessimism—can shape our emotional well-being. At the heart of this idea is something simple …

_ Is Love Supposed to Hurt - Lynda Martens

Is Love Supposed to Hurt?

The short answer is no—and yes. No, love itself isn’t supposed to hurt. Love is not sharp words, silent treatments, or passive-aggressive digs. It’s not walking on eggshells or keeping score. If someone is using aggression—whether loud or subtle—to wound you, that isn’t love. Sure, everyone has bad days or moments of reactivity, but deliberate or repeated harm crosses a …

Your Feelings Are Yours A Gentle Reminder - Lynda Martens

Your Feelings Are Yours: A Gentle Reminder

One of the most common misunderstandings about emotions is the idea that they’re caused by other people or situations. But the truth is simple and powerful: your feelings are yours. It may seem obvious that emotions come from what happens around us. Someone snaps at you, and you feel hurt or angry. A plan falls apart, and you feel overwhelmed. …